To Play Hard To Get Or To Act Aloof Is Old Fashioned, Let Evolve And Be More Expressive

You remember the first day, you saw him, but you couldn't get yourself to walk right up to him. You couldn't find the encourage to spark up a conversation. Maybe you were shy, or maybe in a normal norm, boys were to be the ones to chase you. Don't chase boys, it makes you cheap, you have to play hard to get. 

The concept, "play hard to get"

 I find it kinda of silly, then we were young teenagers who wore tight jeans and short skirts, and lipsticks, to be chased by boys. Usually a beautiful girl was equated with number of boys that drone over her, and chases her. 

Mama will always tell us girls, don't act a fool when you see a man, I find it quite laughable now, how what she meant was don't let man notice how you love him, at first sight, he will think you weak and maybe cheap. 

 Pretend is what she means even when you have every urge to kiss him, to do things with him at that first time.  No, play hard to get, pretend to hate him, tell him you will think about it when he asks you out, make him know you are a trophy every man wants you , when you start to date play the 90 days rules, read a lot books from relationships experts, and play mind games, don't pick his calls at the first ring,  take your time, always play hard to get. 

 More than anything, I hate this concept, that tries to box women on how to be acceptable to be worth a man's time.  We attach shame to this things, to her feelings how she really feel.

How do you feel? Tell him. Don't be scared to show you care. Even when you tremble when you speak. Don't over think things. Tell him. Whisper to him tender words so soft and sweet.  Reach out to feel his heart beat. Touch him with the gentleness you feel inside. Your love can't be denied. The truth will set you free. If you love him then show him. Tell him.  You are not  less human, be the flame.  Feel your feelings, if it doesn't work out, walk away. Stop over thinking things.  

Men too, are not exmpted from all this  mind games too. What the heck is being aloof to appear more attractive?  They keep attributing aloofness to how a woman will feel about you . No, man, we modern women don't need that thinking, trash it. Maybe other woman, but us women want you to express every damn feeling about how you feel about us . 

Pretending you don't care, will actually make her believe you don't. Let rephrase . You know what I mean. Show you care. Act like you do. Not calling for a few days doesn't make you desirable, I find it disapproving. Feel your feelings  . Tell her.  How do  you feel. Aloofness isn't an intrinsic quality to make a relationship work . If you miss her drive all night to see her. 

 The longevity of relationships isn't about how much mind games you play or the hard to get trick,  it is about the way you carry yourself. Set yourself free.

"But love is wanting for someone more than you want for yourself " -J Cole.